Thank goodness! I thought I was the only one here who gets freaked out by the thought of my T hugging me! I've shook his hand once or twice, and that was okay albeit a little weird, but the thought of a hug REALLY makes me anxious!

Is your T the same sex as you? Does that matter? I'm trying to figure out if the reason I don't want to is because my T and I are both males, or if I would be open to hugging a female T more. I don't think I would hug a female T either, but I see female T's as more "motherly" or whatever and therefore I would see it differently for some reason, even though I highly doubt I would see it as integral to my therapy like most people in here seem to feel.

If I want a hug, I get one from a friend or family member usually. I just don't think I want to go that route with my T as I don't feel a hug necessarily represents caring in all cases. He shows me in other ways that are tangible and real, not just by hugging. Believe it or not, I think hugs can be rather artificial too. I've been hugged by plenty of people who couldn't care less about me, which is probably why I don't equate them as necessary to show caring.