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Nov 21, 2010, 01:43 PM
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Member Since: Jun 2007
Location: Chicago, Illinois
Posts: 5,518
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Hi Lik 
I get where you're coming from, but you can't say you don't like white people until you get to know all of them - that would take more than a lifetime.  Saying you don't like white people is as bad as someone saying they don't like black people.
I'm a white woman who was married to a black man, together for a total of ten years, and we have a son together. The breakup of our marriage had nothing to do with race. Even during our most painful arguments, race was never a factor. My ex was a lousy husband, but he's a good man and I consider him a friend. I'm still very close with my in-laws.
I am now married to a Latino man, and we've been together for over 20 years. 
I totally get your skepticism though. When I started dating after my divorce, several people broke up with me after finding out my son's race. If not, they said derogatory things about black people. There was no way I would be able to trust someone like that around my son, so I basically gave up dating - it's not right to sacrifice a child for a man.
When I met my husband (Mexican heritage), I tested him during regular conversations to see what he'd say. He passed my test with flying colors, and he's an excellent father to my son - who is now an adult. My husband and my ex-husband respect each other and the roles they play in my son's life.
I'm sorry you ran into a jerk. I hope one day we will learn to recognize each other as human beings first. 
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