I can't directly understand how you feel but my mom eventually opened up to me a few years ago about her and my dad's marriage. When they split I was 6 and didn't really understand the dynamics of what was going on. I was really mad at my mom for just up and leaving. Of course I didn't understand that she was physically afraid of my dad. And now I commend her for keeping those things away from me to allow me to have a relationship with my dad. Now that I'm 23 she finally opened up a little about it and she had to go through a lot of crap from a lot of people because she hid all those things he did to her.

If you focus on how others are seeing you, you wont be happy. You have to think that you are in a better place now and screw everyone else who can't see that. You can't obsess over how others are viewing your divorce. What matters is that you are out of the violence and into a new chapter of your life. Keep us updated and good luck with everything.