Kimmy,

I think you are way off base.

What is so different about DD that requires a post to explain who is posting and what they need back? Im thinking here of other forums. Do we ask the people in SI to state who they are, how they feel and the type of people they wish to respond? Do we ask the people in depression to state who they are, how they feel and the type of people they wish to respond? Do was ask this of anyone in any forum. Do we ask that when you post in Kudos is should only be done when we feel loving and giving? Do we ask that when we post in general we only talk of light hearted subjects?

Why would DD be asked to put these things in a post when no other forum requires this. It feels prescriptive and exclusive.

I post in DD a lot, its my main place and Ive posted for some time. I have never felt this to be an issue for anyone except one person. Should a whole forum change their way of posting to meet the needs of one person?

I feel it is unreasonable to ask this and I cannot guarantee the people inside me would be able to manage with such a weigh.

Sometimes when I post I have no need, except that of expression, should I say that i only want to express myself, how can i then determine who and how a post should be answered.

What if I post and have one need but my others have a different need? How should I tackle this? Should i say "im upset about X, I only want to hear from people who a) have the same diagnosis,b) those who share my opinion. However Allison (who is a baby in me ) would like to hear from a) anyone wither they agree or not b) those who do not have the diagnosis etc. I could go on and on cos i have 6 people. I could also say that no one should post if they are going to mention anything about medication as Snodders (a 13 years old in me) does not like drugs!

Why should I post in such a fashion in DD when noone else anywhere else on this whole forum is required to do so.

Additionally, do I own a post? Have i the right to say who should answer and how they should respond?

I would be really interested to know what people think. Who excactly does have a problem? It seems to me that noone has a problem in DD except one person. Is it not possible that the person could post in such a way that expresses what they want, rather than forcing me to post in a way, asking for specific replies from specific people when that is not what I want.

If someone were to post and specifically state who they wish to reply, i would honour that, but why should i post in such a fashion when i really do beleive that anyone who wishes to answer should be allowed to do.

Im really interested in whose needs are not met. I dont see that there is an issue in DD. People post from all different perspectives and people respond from all different perspectives. That happens in all the forums here, why should DD be any different.

I thought the purpose of DD was to allow expresion on all aspects of DD from any perspective. But there are some over arching principles on this site, eg SI goes in SI, thats why we have it, Drugs goes in Drugs cos thats why we have it. If these are not to be used why do we have them. If it is not important to post in the correct place why does Admin continually move posts to more appropriate places?

We all have a responsibility to post in a responsible manner. But I do not see how this responsibility extends into what you are suggesting here. And if its being offered as a way to post on DD, why is it not being suggested as a way to post in other forums.

DD has a huge variety of posts, some for littles and some for adults, what is the issue with that?

You say you want to give all aspects of us what we need when we need it? Is this not what we do already?

As an adult I can come here and say " i want to be alone and dont want others inside me"

And at the same time i can say " im a baby and I want to play with my dolls but Audrey wont let me"

I get replies on both topics, from those with and those without DD and Im happy to get them.

The thought of having to list who I want to reply, and how i want them to reply seems like a heavy burden that Im not really prepared to take on board.

Also, how do we know someone actaully has a DX? Shoud we submit a medical certificate to prove that we have the DX? How can we really know. And how your DD affects you and how it affects me can be very different. Should I ask only for those with the same DX as me and who suffer in the same way as me?

It feels cumbersome, exclusive and extreemly difficult. By the time i had worked my way through explaining the perspective I was posting from, and who I wished to reply to me I would be exhausted.

I want to post on any issue related to DD, from any stand point and Im willing to have anyone reply to me that thinks they have something to say. Wither they are DD or not, and wither they agree or not. It feels wrong to me to exclude people and this is what i would be doing if I was to adhere to all this.

Who excalty has a problem and how will they tackle it? Should a whole forum change to suit one person?

Im really interested to know how you are going to proceed with this KImmy cos it feels crucial to how this whole place operates, not just DD.

And for what its worth, my littles feel pressurised to be quiet and say nothing as it seems like what they have to say is worthless, or at the very least a side issue.

When for me, they really are the issue.

Audrey