zh,

Im sorry that you do not feel comfortable in how you post. That makes me feel sad and i hope there is something you can do to make that better for you.

Maybe you could consider doing some of the things that Kimmy has suggested and ask specifically for the type of support you want and who you want it from. Maybe that would improve your comfort and I know I would respect what you ask for in a post.

You talk of readers taking things personally. I am part of a community here which i love and i feel attached to what im a part of. It feels both human and important for me to respond on how I feel.

How I feel is important as is how you feel, thats what im trying to say here. I dont want to restrict you in how you post and equally I dont want to be restricted in how I post.

This place really is big enough for all of us and encompassing enough to allow us to post in different ways that meet all our needs.

Audrey