Hello Shadow Wraith,

If you change any more your parents and friends won't recognise you. Changing things isn't the sole responsibility of one person in a marriage. And it is not even about the person changing but the behaviour changing that is the issue.

Your wife sounds like the kind of person whom if treated like gold would only have more excuse to treat you like the dirt from which the gold emerged.

Sure you will love her, you have shared a lot together. But you can flog a dead horse all you want to, it isn't going to get up and walk around or do anything else you want it to, is it?

Be thankful you are getting out before there are any children to think about. That would make things so much more complicated and it would be so hard on them.

I think you are doing the right thing