Hello acrazynao,

You are going through such turmoil, I'm so sorry it isn't more simple. I do have a thought though. If you are trying to hurt each other there must be two people under there somewhere who love each other. Because when you don't care it doesn't hurt.

When it doesn't hurt there is no love left. Look back at your life together when it started; look back at who you were and what you were like when you married... refind who you are by revisiting who you want to be and what you want to be like.

Take a deep breath and let your thoughts float back to when you first fell in love and it was easier. You can have that again if you both want it. But it must be both otherwise it won't work at all. That so called friend of you and your husband must be taken out of the picture altogether. He is nothing but a reminder of infidelity and pain for you both. So discuss it with your husband and I am sure you will agree that he doesn't do anything to smooth the path you are on.

Please let us know how things are going, thinking of you,

Rhiannon