 Okay, Friends – this is my final rant on this subject (for now) – and then I'll shut up about it and just get on with it...
 My older brother and sister were taught to view me as worthless, of no value, nothing by our abusive parents - as property to be used and abused according to their whims and sick wills. All these years later, my brother still says to me, "You're nothing. You're nobody. You don't have any rights;" and, "We're doing you a favor by even associating with you at all;" and, "You don't deserve to be treated with the same respect and consideration as normal, decent people do." They have and never will change these attitudes because they derive justification for abusing me from those attitudes, and a tremendous sense of superiority to validate their worthiness to exist; and by manipulating others into devaluing me according to my family's deprecating portrayal of my identity, they enhance how others perceive and assign value to them in comparison to my abject worthlessness.
My brother has told me on several occasions, "I'll believe anything that anyone says about you before I'll believe anything you say." These are the very same words that our parents said to me throughout my childhood, and even throughout my adulthood - my abusive siblings were apt students of two Master Abusers. What absolutely amazes me is that my brother, as our parents before him, truly believes this pronouncement is "proof" of the diminished quality of my character even though he is clearly expressing his willingness to give others the power to control his perception of reality - his willingness to embrace the non-life of a puppet by submitting to the whims and wills of others in order to garner their acceptance and approval, and to thoroughly delude himself into believing that truth and reality are mere products of perception!
I don't put any store in their opinions of me - never have, never will since I know that they are not based in fact; unfortunately, others have and still do, since my family members are quite adept at masquerading in their false public personae as kind, caring, honest, respectable, pillars of the community - deceiving and manipulating others into abusing me for them - into punishing me for crimes I have not committed. Once others have been manipulated into allowing themselves to be used by my abusive family members as instruments to inflict pain and damage on me, more often than not they will further defame and discredit me themselves just to protect their own egos and reputations, reluctant to admit that they could be so easily fooled, taken advantage of, and USED by my family.
This is what my family members have been doing in earnest for the past 9 years since I moved back to my home state from up north. They have been feeding false information regarding my personal and medical histories to my new healthcare providers WITHOUT MY KNOWLEDGE AND CONSENT in order to control and direct my healthcare to suit my family's purposes - especially to suit my siblings' purposes. They were determined to coerce our mother into changing her will to give them control over my share of the inheritance because they could not tolerate the thought of me, the unworthy, being assigned value equal to their own. I knew nothing of their illegal interference in my healthcare for almost 6 years because my healthcare providers did not inform me of it as they are legally obligated to do. 
As a direct result of my siblings' defamation campaign and interference in my healthcare, I have lost in excess of $100K in disability and retirement benefits, have been deprived of access to appropriate medical care, access to transportation and any other assistance, and completely socially ostracized and isolated - but, my siblings were finally able to get what they wanted - control over my share of the inheritance by any means necessary and at any cost to me. Once my healthcare providers realized that they had jeopardized their own reputations and careers by compromising their ethics, betraying my trust, and violating my rights, they chose to conceal their and their staff members' incompetence and misconduct at my expense by further defaming and discrediting me to everyone - so I have been essentially "black-listed" by the local medical community.
I will most likely never receive appropriate medical treatment for anything unless I leave the state or am able to build the legal case against them all myself in order to “clear my name” - apparently, it's just too complicated and there just is not enough money involved to interest the attorneys I've contacted thus far (“That's terrible – that's horrible – good luck with that!”) I just had my SSA Disability Review and updated them on my situation - they were already aware of it from my 2003 Review. I asked them to please initiate an investigation, and they wrote back that they had decided that they did not need to review my case at the present time, but were keeping the information I sent them - but I haven't heard anything more from them so I don't know if they are going to investigate or if they are waiting to see what I am able to accomplish on my own.
Although I have been criticized by some here for mentioning my diagnoses ( ), I am going to mention them here anyway since they are germane to the issue. I have Major Depressive Disorder, PTSD, ADHD/ADD, Chronic Pain Disorder, and a number of other chronic medical conditions, including a "still-undiagnosed" immune-system disorder which prevents me from taking medications to help me deal with the other disorders. (It has just occurred to me, too, that having to take massive doses of antihistamines daily (400mg Benadryl and 300mg ranitidine) to suppress my immune system is probably really exacerbating my ADHD/ADD symptoms! )
I have been hanging on to the edge of the abyss by my fingernails since 2001, and every time I try to work on this mess, the MDD, PTSD, ADHD/ADD symptoms are triggered and I am thrown in and pinned to the bottom of the pit - overwhelmed and paralyzed by the hurt, anger, frustration, outrage, damage, destruction, injustice, and, most of all, the sorrow, grief, and sense of unfathomable loss. I'm 60 y/o - I am in the last years of my life, and these people have deliberately and intentionally made these past 9 of the few precious years that I have remaining an absolute living hell for me for their own personal amusement, image enhancement, and financial gain. This is all just a big game to them, especially to my brother – just a big power struggle and popularity contest; i.e., “People like us better than you;” and “I can convince just about anybody of just about anything.” Frightening, but true apparently.
Although I am still breathing and walking about, I have no presence and no voice! What my abusers have done is far worse than character assassination - it is identity annihilation - in essence, they have committed identity murder - have done everything in their power to make me the "nothing," the "thing of no value whatsoever" they have always defined me as being. As all abusers do, they chose the victim who is least able to defend herself - who does not possess the social, political, or financial clout to fight back, and they honestly believe that this is verification of their superior quality and value. They stand atop those who are less fortunate in order to elevate themselves, forcibly imposing their sick wills on those who can't fight back to keep them underfoot where they belong. They create the false impression of being honorable, caring, respectable, and generous people without actually helping anyone too much – just enough to be able to brag about to others.
The thing is, my abusive family members did not possess the POWER to destroy my life and inflict this damage on me until others gave it to them - until my new healthcare providers gave my abusers that which was NOT theirs to give, and that which my abusers are NOT worthy or authorized to possess and wield! My healthcare providers - the ones that I, as any other patient, should have been able to trust to respect and protect my rights and confidential personal and medical information, to act in my best interest, and to advocate for my welfare - handed my abusers the POWER to destroy my life on a silver platter when they chose to judge and condemn me - when they chose to become a lynch mob - based NOT on my medical records or their own clinical evaluations, but on nothing more than the petty, malicious gossip manufactured and spread about by my petty, malicious, abusive family members! And these supposedly upstanding, compassionate, intelligent, educated, principled, competent, experienced, accomplished, respected, ethical, medical "professionals" have willingly sacrificed me and left me to deal with the consequences of their misconduct in order to protect their careers, egos, social status, and bank accounts, the value of which they have deemed as far exceeding the inconsequential life of one of their own patients - MY ONE AND ONLY LIFE!
grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr............
Okay – that's it. I feel a little better now. Thanks for listening. lynn09 
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"I walked a mile with Pleasure; she chattered all the way, But left me none the wiser for all she had to say. I walked a mile with Sorrow and ne'er a word said she; But oh, the things I learned from her when Sorrow walked with me!"
(Robert Browning Hamilton; "Along The Road")
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