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Originally Posted by zooropa
I know she doesn't have a history of abuse because she told me so, many times. she even said it again during group yesterday.
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I know a couple of people who lied about it FOR YEARS, in an attempt to protect themselves emotionally. The world is full of silent people who suffered through such abuse, who NEVER speak of it. Even so, even without a history of abuse, her behavior was abhorrent.
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i havent gotten to talk to my T about it yet, but I will tomorrow. especially since i got 3 texts from M tonight.
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Is M playing with your emotions here or what? What does she want from you now, to pretend like it's okay or something? I hope you aren't drawn into that sort of thing because history indicates that she will likely push away again, hurting you all over again.
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she feels so much better after group, shes so glad I stayed because it helped her so much, blah blah blah. It makes me angry and...violated? Like what I feel doesnt matter, my experience doesnt matter, its just a convenient vehicle for her to work out her issues.
#uck that noise.
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You were violated. Emotionally and in a real way.
It doesn't matter how she feels. Helping her is the therapist's job, not yours. Especially at your expense. That is not what friends do. Sorta narcissistic sounding isn't she? She violated your trust and then wanted you to forget all about it. Nope... don't shed any more tears over that girl; she has done enough already and I'd politely and firmly tell her to stop contacting you, that she needs to work out her issues with her T.
What have you told her in response to her texts, if anything?