tcmoon52 adds an important element and likely the reason that we struggle more with this issue than others.

Most of us have suffered severe and serious set backs often including divorce, loss of opportunity, job dysfunction, and on and on. At the same time it is hard to determine why we did the things we did.

I mean most of us are not comfortable with blaming our illness. I know I'm not. But at the same time I can't imagine that I would ordinarily do some of things I have done.

But the fact is regardless of how much is the illness and how much is just good old human imperfection we are still in the boat we are in. And it usually is not a comfortable boat and the waters are rising fast!

But in the end we have to reestablish what our expectations should be.

And again for me I have broadened the question and feel convinced that the purpose of humanity is far beyond what this world presents. And all of this garbage and nonsense, including the physical frailty will be corrected.