I've gone through "getting over my T" a few times in my life with different Ts. The key for me has been getting a new T to replace the other one. You are probably saying "but I want MY T" not another one. That's how I was too. But therapy is complicated.

The feelings you have for a T are about that particular person, but they are also more general--the transference part. The trust you have for your T can be built up the same way with another good T. It's the nature of the therapeutic relationship for that to happen. It just takes time.

I never thought I'd get over my first T, many years ago. When I saw a new T, we spent a great deal of time discussing my other T, and she helped me come to terms with my grief about not having her anymore.

Last year, I quit seeing a T who I'd been seeing for more than 5 years. I was so attached to her that I never ever imagined I'd be able to leave. But I did. I found a new T and attached to her pretty quickly. She's the best T I've ever had!

I think it's hard to "get over" a T if you aren't seeing another one. It also sounds incredibly difficult to see her at the gym. I can relate to that because I have seen my former T around too, and in the beginning I couldn't function after seeing her. Can you switch gyms, or go at a different time?

Allow yourself to grieve, for you ARE grieving a loss in your life. I hope that you can connect with another T, and work out some of your grief with that T. Find a T who fits; don't just go to anyone. That will be healing for you.