find something you can really get into, preferrably something with your hands and mind. i build models and i really enjoy the building part. iget really relaxed just taking my time. not so as yet with the painting because i am not that good yet. this a mind hands focus thing. i have a windowed corner in my study with 3 lamps for light and warmth. when i get anxious at home i take a hot bath with hot tea and cold lemon water, a good book or a puzzle book like crosswords. when i get really anxious i pull out a jig saw puzzle. you can get them small and cheap at goodwill. i find i can really get lost for hours in them.