I don't like the term "get over" though I used it too. I still think about my first T but I don't cry about her anymore. It's more than 25 years since I've seen her. I've put her into proper perspective in my mind. She was extremely important to me back then, and I had difficulties when I left her, but now I think about her fondly. She has a place in my heart. That's the goal rather then "getting over" someone.