WOW. I can not wrap my mind around this. I don't know if it sounds blaming, or...what? But it just really upsets me.

Is your therapist worried that he is unable to hold good boundaries? If my T said that to me, I honestly don't think I could continue therapy with him. I would hate it if he implied that touching me would somehow lead to something bad.

I hug my (opposite sex) T, and it is safe and healing. It has taught me that touch CAN be safe, that it DOESN'T have to lead to being hurt. I was in therapy for a long time before the idea of touch (or even close proximity in the room) didn't totally freak me out...but over time, as I've learned to trust T and to feel safe, getting a hug at the end of session has been healing. To be hugged, and then to come back to the next session and find that nothing has changed, that T is still T and I am still safe, is huge. I was abused as a child, and it's like this ongoing process of unlearning something I learned a long time ago. Every time I hug T at the end of session and then come to the next session to find the same safe T and the same safe relationship, I think I heal a little more inside.

I'm sorry your T said that to you, and I hope that you can see that that is HIS issue and not yours. It just sounds so painful