Do you think it is easier to get over someone you ended on bad terms with, or the other way around? I just got dumped a few days ago and feel really bad. We had started talking things over a month ago. She said that her feelings had pretty much gone away. We both know that the falling in love-phase never lasts in a relationship, but she was sure it wasn't just that. We tried to get it back for about a month but got nowhere, and now its over. She says she still cares about me and maybe even loves me in a way, just not in the way you love a boyfriend. I can understand that.

We also decided that we want to be on good terms, even me. I don't want to be completely dead to her and she doesn't want to be dead to me. Now I do realize that I can't exactly be on good terms for a while now, even though we did not end the relationship due to fights or cheating or whatnot. I know that we will never be good friends in the future, and that we will never be a couple again, but I do want us to be able to (for example) talk sometime in the future without it being all awkward. Am I just making excuses not to let go? What do you guys think, is it harder to let go if the break up was "the best way to go" or if it ended in tears?