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Old Nov 23, 2010, 08:26 AM
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Originally Posted by Myers View Post
That's a good question. I've actually been mulling it over for years, to no avail. I could point some fingers and say my abusive father, sordid past, opportunity for success in criminal endeavors early in my life, society's contempt for me, the piece of **** who left me a cripple, or the untimely and violent passing of my first wife played a role in this anger.

that would seem a logical conclusion - or at least help propel the anger along.

However, I never loved my father, nor anyone else for that matter. I can't have a connection with anyone. Who's to say I wouldn't have turned out the way I did had he been a decent man? I engaged in petty criminal endeavors long before I had the opportunity to make a living out of it, and I engaged in this behavior of my own volition. So, did I become a criminal because I was exposed to crime and found opportunity in it, or did I seek out and indulge in crime because it suited my own nature? For everything mentioned in that list, did that really beget the anger, or did it merely give it purpose and direction?

I guess we wil never really know - unless the root cause of the anger (if external) was found.

As far as I can tell, this anger is a part of my very own nature. It's too ingrained in my psyche, and it's been with me for too long to be a result of some external factor. If I'm not fighting against or for something, I just feel lost, without purpose. It's as if I only exist to feed that predatory hunger inside me. P7 highlighted that last part

wonders.....if you found another purpose .. one that did not involve fighting the anger.....would you stil feel lost?

However, if the prosecutor asks, I'm not above laying the blame on the poor saps in the aforementioned list of pains in my ***.

lol

Vigorous exercise does help relieve it, momentarily. However, if I see an opportunity to harm or obtain whatever it is I'm focused on at the given moment, I find it very difficult to redirect that anger toward anything else. That's one of the aspects of psychopathy that is often attributed to the psychopath's sheer determination and lack of inhibitions.

is it determination and lack of inhibition ? or lack of control?

Psychopaths, myself included, become so hyper-focused on our objective, that we fail to see outlying factors. The notion of redirecting the anger or resisting the urge usually doesn't even register. And, if it does, it falls on deaf ears.

My anger - (and not comparing at all ) used to be explosive and unpredictable - it has taken me a long time to be able to recognise and redirect when the warnign signs occur - and a longer time to even be able to see that there were indeed warning signs that i could not at the time see.

wondering again, (yes i wonder a lot lol ) if some form of relaxation technique - would help... if practised daily would that help to slow the anger enough for you to redirect it safely - after all there are only so many things you can break - and it gets expensive.

I do play the piano and draw or paint. But, like mentioned previously, it doesn't have much effect when I become fixated on the objective. It does help, however, if I am angry or aggressive and have no way of relieving it.

so there is a way to redirect the anger then in a non violent way - or it would seem so from the sentence above.

Im glad you have some creative outlets for you energy

take care

P7
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