sometimes, it is very hard to put oneself into someone else's postion. expecially, if they never, ever hint about how deeply in hurt they are. and if they are afraid to tell it, that makes it worse. i never ever told lmy parents how depressed i was growing up. i didn't even tell them, when i started therapy and meds. i was so afraid of the nonconditional rresponse. an example of their attitude was when i divorced an abusive husband, they disowned me. i should not have divorced a lawyer...that was their position. the abuse wasn't in the equation. my mom offered to testify against me...because he was a lawyer!!!! and what was i? a nothing.

asking for unconditional support is, within itself, a trusting and caring position to put yourself in. it means that you are hoping that you'll get back what you've given. but, i guess if you don't have it, you can't give it back. that's a quote, that i saw on here today. and i have a therapist. i'm certainly not looking for that aspect of support. i just can't afford to go right now.