You guys are wonderful! When I've been depressed lately I think that I have this forum to live for--it keeps me going.

thanks, madisgram. I needed that reminder that T will understand. I know she will.

granite, you're always helpful to me. You're right. I need to be in that room with T to feel better.

Eileen--that's cute, a "rainbow map". I do need to write a list because everything is jumping out at me now. That's how I am about everything. I am stubborn, don't like lists but I make one I feel so much better!

tree, thank you. I didn't know t's vacation was going to bring up so much. Bt never took vacations, maybe once in 5 years!

doogie, yeah, I need to let T handle it. My job is just to go in with the feelings. I've got to remember that. Thanks!

Peaches, thank you. I have a lot to talk about and you're right. There's some really big stuff.