oh wow all these posts have really helped me a lot. i was about to let my husband back in our home but i got the strength from God to put on the breaks. im in wv there is a dvp order we are going a few days from now to withdraw it & do a no fault or whatever it is in wv a bunch of bull if u ask me. im getting it from all sides & a few people are getting ready to see a side of me they arent used to seeing (family members) condeming judgemental crap. i have let myself get pushed around for so long by husband & family members & i cant hold it in anymore. i thought 15 years was bad enuff time to move on & have happiness & peace im at the point where i am considering myself not married dont care what some stupid papers court workers throw at me judges "proper procedures" its all such a money racket too they want this & that for this paper & that paper we have come to an agreement the horse has bolted out of the gate & life has moved on let go & let God & everything ll be all rite!