((((((((((((((((Jen))))))))))))))

The way your "friends" are reacting is making me soooooooooo MAD!!!!!!!!!!

YOU ARE NOT AT FAULT!!!!!!!!!!!!

In any way, shape, or form!

When you reported it, if you reported it does not make what happened okay. It does not make you at fault. You did a wonderful job of reporting it when you felt safe to do so. That is a very hard decision and you believed in yourself to be able to do that. Don't let these people and their views tarnish your own belief in yourself.

These people are ignorant!

You went through a traumatizing situation. If these were my friends, well they wouldn't be for long.

I hope you talk about what these people are saying with your T. She will be able to support you and tell you (along with us) that these people are wrong. They obviously don't understand what happened. She will be able to support you. This is part of the affects of the trauma and deserves to be discussed too.

This in no way makes them right, but it gives a perspective to where their thinking is coming from: (This IS NOT saying they are right, they are wrong)
Psychologically they probably want to tell you it is their fault so that they feel like they can have control. If it was your fault (which it is not) they you could have stopped it from happening. If you could have stopped it from happening to you, then if something similar happens to them, they can control the situation and stop it. That means that they feel safer believing you could stop it, because that means that they would be able to stop it. Not being able to stop bad things from happening is a very scary place to be psychologically. They are trying to protect themselves at your expense. This is similar to the situation when children feel that they are at fault for their own abuse. If they were at fault then they could have stopped it and had control over a situation that was actually out of their control.

It is never the victims fault. It is not your fault. You are doing great. Let your T know that things are getting harder. We are here for you. Thank you for posting and letting us help you!