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Originally Posted by rainbow8
with or without you: Thank you for sharing so much in your reply. I've done this kind of thing before, with other Ts. It's a pattern with me, but I've always been able to control it, and I always discuss it with my T. I emailed my T the same day I drove past her house. I had no intention of hiding it from her. I don't plan to do it again, though.
My T shares a lot about herself with me, but you're right. I've always thought therapy is unfair, but I've had to accept it for what it is--a unique intimate relationship that doesn't last forever. It's about ME, not the T.
I'm glad my thread has inspired you to talk about the experiences you posted about, with your T. It's always a little weird to see your T in RL. I've had a lot of problems with that with my former T because our paths crossed a lot. Once my car didn't start and I had to go ask if I could use her phonebook to look up a service place. I was embarrassed.
I think it's always good to share your feelings about your T with your T. I never used to be able to do that, but it's what I need to do to heal. PM me if you want to discuss this more. Thanks for your post.
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Thanks rainbow. I just had a session with my T a couple hours ago. She read what I wrote down, and said that I hit the nail on the head and not to feel guilty...she said she doesn't feel that anything I did was an invasion of her privacy or crossing the line. She also said she was very glad I brought this up, I admitted to being "insanely curious" about her and she said that was perfectly normal and we could talk about it some more. I also explained to her how I was able to reason my way out of wanting to find out more about her or a longing to be her friend, because I realized how anxious our RL interactions made me!
However.....she left me hanging! After the time was up and we said our goodbyes, my phone rang again about 5 minutes later. It was her. I answered it, and she said, "um....oh geez. I meant to return a call to someone who called me right before our appointment, and I unconsciously dialed your number again! I will talk to you about this in our next session..." Wonder what that means????? LOL