Thanks. My copy has on the inside cover a list of who the book has been passed to over the years. Right now its in my son's hands. I gave it to him when he felt he needed to give all of himself to please and take care of me. He has the main copy on his bookshelf here and we make copies for him to keep with him. Last time he was in foster care I made so many copies because he found people who needed to learn to take care of themselves.

To add to my above post:

The reason I wrote the above is because right now I am faced with a very unhealthy friendship where one friend keeps asking that I consider her side when dealing with a third friend.

My love of this friendship for both people is unconditional. I accept both for who they are - two separate people who I like.

In a healthy friendship

friends don't ask one to choose them over the other.

A friend does does not ask a friend to question what the other says or does.

A friend doesn't ask another to "read into" what one friend is talking about so that the third friends side "sqwuished into" that first friend opinions, feelings and so on.

In a healthy friendship all sides are equal. everyone is accepted for themselves and what they alone say and do.

A healthy friendship is where those that have a problem with the other they talk directly and do not ask the third to read into or choose sides.

A friendship without boundries and repect is abuse.

I have no place in my life for abusive friendships and I have no problem dropping the friend who is being abuse to me by asking me to participate in an unhealthy friendship. I have wrote to this person expressing my boundries so the next step is enforcing my boundries by either keeping her as a friend if she is no longer abusing the friendship or dropping her because she remains abusive. In life there are hard decisions to make but I learned long ago friendships need boundries and these are mine. Be it in real life or on line. I have to take care of myself in order to be a friend to others.