((((bebop))))),

Sending God's peace to you & your dad. I know what you are going through as it was 6 years ago that I was going through similar with my Mother. I still can't celebrate Thanksgiving with anyone in a normal thanksgiving setting without the flashbacks to that last Thanksgiving with her.

I know how difficult it is....I really have to say what wonderful grace your father has through all of this....something to hang onto along with his love for you. This wonderful meaningful time that you are having together with your dad is something that you will cherish forever. It's something that my Mother was too much in denial to have with me, guess that is why it's so very noticeable to me as being such a wonderful experience even though it's overshadowed with all the sadness......something that is more recognized looking back I think.

May God give you strength & your dad, a lack of suffering & may you really be thankful for this thanksgiving that you have to share together this year. I know it's hard when it gets down to the end like this. We never know when God's time will come but we do know that it's all in God's time. That was wise that you made sure your dad knows that stopping the transfusions is not suicide.....the transfusions are only a type of life support at this point it seems to me. Maybe he could talk this over with his Dr.......but I'm sure that part was that he needed to hear that you know it's ok.

I know that my mother held on even though we were all assured of her being in heaven. I think some of that was the fear of the unknown but also the need to hear from me that it was ok to let go

Don't know if they have hospice care that would help with giving him pain medication or not, but know that the last 5 days of my mothers life, we arranged to have the hospice care keep her pain medication going.

May God bless you & your Dad & give you peace,

Debbie