I have felt like my husband hated me before, i would bug him and pester him 100 times a day being like do you love me, why do you love me, there are sometimes when he wouldn't say yes, when he would say why do you constantly ask me and he would get really mad. I was off work due to a bi-polar episode, i never dressed or brushed my hair or showered, most of the time when he would come home i would be sleeping and i felt so terrible, not pysically or mentaly terrible, but emotionally terrible, look at me i would say, who would love this or could even. I just wanted to die, and not be a burden on him anymore. I figured it was because he hated me, hell...i hated me how could he not?I called my sister, i felt so alone i needed to talk to someone, anyone, and i actually told her exactly how i felt, i did not censor it for the family like i normally do. You know what she told me? She said STOP IT your making yourself sick for nothing. She said clean your house really nice, take a shower and get dressed in your nicest outfit, Make him a beautiful dinner with wine and candles, nice music playing and tell him how you feel. At first i thought that i was to do this for him, but you know what it wasn't for him, it was for me, i felt so good about all i had done, i felt worthy of love and i was able to talk to him. I told him and you know what he said? He said Tina i love you, in sickness and in health, for better or for worse, and i see you through my eyes not yours. That's how i can love you anyways. You know he still says it sometimes, not i love you but "i love you anyways" and it reminds me that just because you think your a burden or fat or ugly or dumb or crazy or whatever you may think, it doesn't mean your husband see's you that way really deep down because he see's you through his eyes and not your own. i hope you are able to speak with your husband let him know that you appreciate him, and love him despite his flaws and that your willing to change what you can to help him feel better, but he should be willing to do the same for you, because that's what a marriage is.

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I feel for you and your in my prayers i hope that's OK with you.