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Originally Posted by rainbow8
tree, I want to just accept it but it's hard for me. It's something so foreign to me because I don't come from a family of "touchers". It doesn't seem normal to want to hold her hand. I can't believe I asked her to touch me twice today: once for a hug at the end, and when we walked out together when I asked to hold hands. It's new behavior for me. I sort of like that I can ask her to do those things, and she does it without questioning me. She doesn't ask me why I want it; she just does it!  |
Rainbow - I too come from a family of non "touchers". I cannot remember a time as a child of ever being held, hugged or kissed. With my therapist it feels like I am so needy. I especially look forward to that end of session hug
it feels so safe to have her arms around me. a couple of weeks ago I asked her to read some of my favorite children's books and tape them for me which she did without hesitation. She never questions me on what I feel even though to me it feels so childish. She accepts the child part of me without question. My biggest problem is it takes me forever to ask for what I need from her and she wants me to not feel afraid to ask.