Welcome to the Community, VeryTiredAlways. You talk about a number of concerns a therapist may help you with. As you are aware, therapy is a cooperative venture. If you refuse to participate, you cannot expect to benefit. That said, what you are doing is not working. If you should decide to give therapy another try, please consider printing your posts. I expect both you and the therapist would find them useful.

You might also want to start a journal. The journal will allow you to focus on how you are feeling and the concerns you face. You also may want to explore what you want from life and what is holding you back.

These links may be of use: http://psychcentral.com/psychotherapy/
http://www.wellsphere.com/mental-hea...therapy/782440
How to Choose a Therapist
Distinctions Between Therapists' Degrees

Good luck.