You're lucky (I think) to have such an insightful therapist. I'm in a country where any substance abuse immediately disqualifies you from therapy - you need to go to a substance abuse clinic instead. I think it's absolutely ridiculous, I've been diagnosed with Major Depressive Disorder with anxiety symptoms, and I KNOW I drink and/or smoke pot to self medicate. But because I was honest about my occassional habit, I can't get help. I can quit whenever I want (which I have now done when it comes to smoking) without any symptoms. Drinking (because it's legal) is supposedly not a problem, but it's much worse for me mentally than smoking. How do they think I can ever get better if they don't treat the cause of my habit rather than just tell me to quit the better but illegal habit without any help for my actual illness??? I miss the States sometimes, my therapist there was fantastic.