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Originally Posted by geez
Thanks for your response Penguin. I guess my MO is typically to be a doormat and not say anything. I'm working on not being a doormat and being more vocal. I sent her an email as perviously posted and I'm sure I will have to bring it up verbally when I see her. I'm so nervous about it and scared. I fear she is going to reject me.
Anytime I was upset about something I was told that I was being too sensitive and my feelings were never validated (when I would try to go to my mom for support - this is something I tried once - she physically pushed me away and yelled at me). Blah, blah, blah.......
Thanks for listening.
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((((geez)))))
I've been rejected by more than one "professional", but not my T of 2 years. I've learned from experience that it is not as bad as it first appears (actually a blessing in disguise as it is better to find out sooner than later that your T is a ****), and secondly, that the "professional" T's and Pdocs and whatevers usually reject you in the very early stages of therapy.
I also discovered it is because they are inadequate. Your T doesn't appear to be lacking in good T qualities, so I think this is just anxiety magnified.
My parents aren't very good at being supportive. They barely qualify in that regard. They are quite lucky to have me but are so self-absorbed they barely notice. That's their problem though.
They didn't walk around validating my feelings either. But, I'm at the point in my life where I don't need their opinions. Sometimes I'm just RIGHT and I know it and I feel it and I don't need them to vocalize it to feel valued anymore. I hope that you can get to that point someday too geez