((((((((marriedbee))))))))

I can understand how this upsets you. the ex-husband was a porn freak...in fact he was just a freak full stop. The fact that he was such a porn freak really put me off him. I called it his disabiity; he hated that and was mean about it. But I can't help the fact that it made him distasteful to me. It was one of the many things that put an end to the marriage.

I understand too how it takes away your self confidence because you feel that you are not alluring or sexy to your husband and he prefers to see other women naked. In fact it is not about seeing the women naked it is about the sex and watching the act and feeling like a voyeur that excites many.

Therapy will help, but if he doesn't want to stop the addiction he will avoid any help at all. So maybe you could seek out some therapy for yourself with a therapist, one whom can help you to accept that it is nothing you lack, have said, or have done that created your husbands addiction to pornography.

Supporting you unconditionally,

Rhiannon