I'm so sick of my bf's neice being in the middle of our life. I'm sorry I cannot deal with her selfishly invading our space and our life. Even though she has been at her stepmothers she still calls every day harrassing my bf because she wants money. She doesn't even want to come and get it, she wants him to come to her and bring her the money. This is what pisses me off about her. Even before she moved in, she was always asking him for money and wanting him to buy her outfits and take her and her cousin out to eat and to the movies or whatever. She told me that he is the only one of her uncles that spends money on her and thats why she likes him because he does things for her. But when he doesn't do what she wants, she has a fit and gets rude and disrespectful. I've seen her in action and told my bf about it. I told him off i was so mad because he didn't say anything to her about her behavior. This was a while ago before she came to stay with us. We took her and her cousin out and spent alot of money on them trying to entertain them and gave them dinner and then when my bf didn't want to do something they asked him to do they started yelling at him like he was their age and was very disrespectful and rude. I had told him then don't bring either one of them over here again and don't ask me to do anything with them again. Then a few weeks later his neice is living with us. He sat her down and told her that he didn't like the way she behaved that time and he said she apologized. She talks disrespectful to her father and to her other uncles. She has never talked that way to me although i know she would like to. I saw her and her cousin giving me the evil eye several times while we were out that time because i wouldn't let them run things. They are very demanding teenagers, selfish and greedy. Always wanting something and not even being thankful or grateful. Anyway i got off the subject. Yesterday after my bf went to get her to bring her back here like she said she wanted, she told him she wanted to stay there for thanksgiving she just needed money because her pocketbook broke and she needed money for a new one. He lied and said he didn't have any money because he has a problem just coming out and saying no. So he told her he would come out there on Thanksgiving knowing that we were spending the day together. When he came home and told me this i was mad as hell. I said if you go out there i'm going to be very very upset and will have nothing to say to you. He tried to get through to me and told me well you can come, we can visit, i said no because she doesn't want you to come and visit she just wants money thats all it is. He doesn't want to see it. But I let him know, she wants you around because you give her money and buy her things. I said, she is not even our daughter, she is not your daughter, she has a father. We should not and can not support her financially. She needs to get a pt job if she wants money or she needs to make peace with her father and ask him. I said to him why do you keep giving her money whenever she asks, you know you shouldn't do that, it just makes her more spoiled and more greedy and selfish. He said he knows, he feels sorry for her and doesn't know how to tell her no. He doesn't want her to be mad at him. Who freaking cares? Let her be mad! Then she kept calling over and over. She would call my bf's cell phone, he wouldn't pick it up and it would go to voicemail and she would call right back, and over and over. Then she called the house phone and did the same thing. Then she tried my cell phone. We ignored the phones and she was just going crazy ringing all the phones over and over like a crazy person. Who does that? You leave a message and hang up! Finally he called her and told her he wasn't coming and she was mad of course. She will be calling bright and early tomorrow doing the same thing to try to get him to come tomorrow. I want to pick up the phone and tell her off. This is why i didn't answer the phone because i'm so mad i will not be very nice talking to her, i will tell her to stop harrassing my bf for money and leave us the hell alone. Oh I am so mad. I'm sorry i have to vent. So we ended up going out to eat alone just the two of us but i was angry. I don't know what to do about him. He has no back bone whatsoever. I knew this already so i can't really complain. He has a problem standing up for himself. However, he has no problem telling me no he can't do something. I told him that. Why is it you have no problem disappointing me? He just says thats not true. He can never face up to what he does wrong. Oh boy have i got myself in a mess of a relationship. I've let it go on for way too long and now i feel stuck. I feel stupid even complaining because i know everyone is thinking why are you still with him. Because I am dependent on him right now. I don't feel like i can financially support myself alone. I do love him and i do feel an attachment to him he is like a part of me now. Plus he keeps telling me he doesn't want me to leave he wouldn't know what to do without me and we can work things out, but how if he can't put his foot down with his family. He needs to make me a priority and he needs to start standing up for himself and for me and for us as a couple. Anyway, I just needed to vent and i'm sorry this was such a long post.