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Originally Posted by geez
I'm sure I will have to bring it up verbally when I see her. I'm so nervous about it and scared. I fear she is going to reject me.
Anytime I was upset about something I was told that I was being too sensitive and my feelings were never validated (when I would try to go to my mom for support - this is something I tried once - she physically pushed me away and yelled at me).
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Can you see how you are being triggered here? Maybe when you go to therapy keep telling yourself that this T is not your mother. I have done this exact thing and it really worked (I told myself in the moment that this person is not my mother when I was being triggered).
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Originally Posted by geez
from what others have posted I don't think she will shame me but based on childhood experiences it sure does feel like that's a possibility.
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Again, it is being triggered, just keep reminding yourself that this was the past and that now it is the present. I kept making this delineation with my triggers and it really helped.
Actually, maybe even talking about what happened with your mother in therapy will be helpful since this is what is being triggered.