Thanks everyone for the insightful replies! I completely understand what you're trying to say, but now I must learnt to implement them. Sorry to keep stretching this further but I think what I need to know is what is a healthy way to respond to these situations?

SUch as when I'm hurt/my sister putting me down and I get angry and my parents criticizing me for expressing myself?

Or, when I try to establish boundries when I'm with indian people? (boundries are just not part of the culture so I don't know how to keep that balance of pleasing others and caring for my own feelings?)

Thanks once again!