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Originally Posted by Sannah
Can you ignore your sister or leave her presence?
Someone from a group culture explained to me once that enforcing boundaries in it is just done more quietly. You do what you need to do without announcing it I think she was saying.
Maybe you are making a lot of noise when you are attempting to enforce your boundaries? When a person becomes confident in their power they realize that not everything is a threat to them and you aren't to this point yet so you feel very threatened and make a lot of noise? I hope that I am making sense.
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Thanks Sannah!
I certainly do get quiet angry on the inside when someone is rude to me or tries to break down my confidence.
Some anger would be from "why is my sister like this? She's my sister! she's supposed to act like a good sister!"
But I've come to terms with the fact that that expectation will never be met.
I have distanced myself from her as much as possible, I dont go out with her anywhere eventhough I have like zero friends here and have practically been locked up in the house for 2 months almost (just moved here). My parents are with me so I can't completely avoid her.
But I also dont want to avoid my family altogether, they're all I have for now. I just want to learn how to deal with it, how to not let it bother me, how to stand up for myself (i guess i expect people to stop their behavior if i stand up for myself but the opposite happens).
Can you recommend some online resources where I can learn how to get to the point where it won't bother me anymore? Its not possible for me to find therapy for now.