Thanks Eliza. Fascinating that there ARE other people out there who have similar experiences! I may just PM you.

Jexa--thank you for your response. I KNOW I need to talk about this stuff with my T...but I mean after 3 years in therapy, I can barely tell her when I am upset by something she says, me assuming she hates me.

Interesting where you are coming from, too. See I have no idea if I would be questioning my sexuality if my friend hadn't kissed me. Of course that isn't something I can really debate about, the "what if," because it did happen. I would say that I had a "normal" child/teenhood in terms of friendships and relationships. Is it so abnormal that I didn't really want sex? I didn't think so in High School. I thought nothing of it, in fact it never came up because my boyfriend was from a very Catholic family.

I am reading this book on womans' sexuality, and it is fascinating so far. The author is describing that women generally have a "responsive" sexuality, versus "spontaneous," meaning that we need/want that emotional connection, have to stimulate our thoughts with the intention of having sex--and then in response from our partner do we feel aroused. Unlike many men who are more driven by the physical desire.

That actually makes me feel better in some ways, but also worse. How on earth am i supposed to figure out my sexuality if i have to form that emotional connection? Where does that line get drawn between two women?