The way I told my therapist I felt this way was to first ask her if she ever had clients who wanted to call her mom. She smiled and said yes. She felt honored by it but like everything else with honor comes difficult choices and when she has a client like that the two of them take the time needed to take care of the feeling and what is behind that feeling then asked if I felt that way.

I hated the fact that she didn't let me keep the fantasy but even then I knew it was the right thing to do otherwise I would have been hurting so much more than I already was. for me it basically came down to whether or not I wanted to feel worse or better. I could feel better by talking and taking care of the situation or I could keep the fantasy and end up hurting myself and possibly losing her when she picked up on my feelings because things like this don't show in just words it shows in tone of voice, body language and and other types of contact. and then after we talked about it I realized if I continued with the fantasy she could lose her job, license and whatever sanctions (fines, jailtime and so on) as a result. I had to decide if it was right for me to cause her that kind of pain just because I wanted to think of her as my mom.

then I thought about how I feel when someone elses actions end up effecting my life to that extreme like my losing my appartment because someone else brought a farret into it when she was my roommate. it wasn't my farret but the lease clearly stated no rodents and a ferret is in the rodent class of animals. Its not my therapists fantasy but my fantasy would eventually effect her life. I chose not to hurt her like that. I cared too much for her as a person and therapist to cause her any harm in anyway.

No one can make you give up a fantasy. but in life the choices a person makes also comes with accepting responsibilty and consequenses of our decisions.

For me keeping this type of fantasy comes with the consequense of hurting someone else and I don't have the right to do that.

Good luck in whatever you decide to do.