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Old Nov 27, 2010, 08:03 AM
Amy
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Myers Does this sound like you?
  • Tell lies and half-truths to avoid having to justify actions or ideas
  • Accuse and blame to divert attention away from them selves
  • Refuse to take another's point of view and irrationally defend their point of view
  • With hold information so the abused will look bad later on ("you should have known that"). Not sharing information someone is entitled to
  • Not acknowledging another's feeling
  • Slighting or taking digs in a non-aggressive or joking manner. Allows the abuser to say he was just kidding while still being abusive
  • Changing the subject to divert attention from them selves
  • Making someone feel worthless in an attempt to lower their self-esteem and bring them down to the level of the abuser.
  • Threatening or hinting of physical, mental or sexual abuse
  • Denying anything is wrong (not being responsible and lying to self)
  • Inappropriate emotional out bursts (a form of distracting attention, confusing the abused or shifting blame)
  • Controlling others to domineer and limit the freedom or expression
  • Forgetting commitments and promises.
  • Denying success by placing unreasonable demands, unjustly singling out or constantly placing someone in the category of a loser.
  • Taking advantage of ones weakness or using shame, guilt or fear against another
  • Manipulating another person against their will
  • Cutting some one off so they are not allowed to speak. Suppressing self-expression.
  • Inappropriate questions or comments to evoke an emotional response
  • Humiliating someone in front of others or inappropriately pushing their buttons
  • Pretending to understand your concerns, and then disregarding them
  • Slandering some ones name, reputation, associations or activities