i've discovered that my lows outweigh my highs (bipolarII) so much more and have to find more ways to cope with that. i know that i can't open myself up to very many, when i'm having a low. i have to have more boundaries and trust less. i don't mean any of this in a bad way. but self-preservation is more important than swimming in the sea of someone else's "support". as Sarahl has said ( and tunia) stepping away and taking a deep breath before revealing too much is very important here in cyberspace. i used to believe that it was okay to look for unconditional support...as an example. i had learned, long ago, that in my family..it ain't gonna happen. i've tried giving it. but i do believe that we bipolarbearians have to really be very careful about giving too much....our wells, at times, can be very shallow and we need that life-giving love for ourselves. xoxoxo pat