The way she turned it back into a question just made that silence seem like it could be nothing other than 'no'.

Be careful with this....therapists have to be so conscious of all our levels of needs, all our different vulnerabilities, that they surely must have to think before they speak. It is impossible to why her answer wasn't immediate. You just have to ask.

Therapy, too, is about giving someone else control of the direction the healing proceeds. I have to trust my therapist to know what comes first--doesn't mean I don't ask about it, just that I have to trust him----or move on to another t.

Regarding a therapist's anger....the idea is that we are their clients and their work is about figuring us out and helping us, not about having a relationship with us that in any way is about their needs. If they don't need something from us...it's pretty unlikely they'll get angry at us...