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It is very important to vent. Especially here, where you can say what you want to perhaps get some clarity. Not just from the responses, but re-reading what you've posted yourself.
This is a difficult medium to communicate with sometimes. You mention sides in your last post. I'm not trying to beat up on you, but if that is truly the way you view it rather than a poor choice of words there is trouble in Dodge.
If there are sides, this is a battle. Him vs. me. Me vs. niece. Them vs. me. There is a winner and loser and that is a very unhealthy way of looking at things.
If this situation is so bad that it is affecting your mental health, then exercise some self care. If you need your own private space and moving is not an option, make your bedroom your sanctuary. DO set boundaries. This is not a power struggle, if his niece will not behave civilly in common areas then she can sit in HER room until she can. Communicate with her maturely stating calmly "screaming is not acceptable, go to your room until you can speak in a normal tone of voice."
It will help if your bf is on board with this, so try discussing it calmly with him. If she X then Y. Agree to show a united front. Eventually she'll either comply or find another place to live.
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I've been married for 24 years and have four wonderful children.
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