>>instead of wasting money on trinkets, we decided that everyone would make up a "coupon book" with favors and help that we were willing to contribute to another family member.

That is such an awesome idea. And fine (IMO) to still give a gift under the tree, but this keeps it from getting "out of hand". Sorry that the tradition is not being upheld but to each his own, this was still a very positive influence and I'm sure had meaning even if they don't follow the same "tradition" today.

>>For a change, I'll have money this Christmas, but I've decided that I'm going to stop worrying about what to get everybody and keep with tradition; the coupon books.

Awesome! It is a great idea whether motivated by finances or by personal morals and values (and a desire to keep one's sanity).

Everyone can celebrate the holiday however they personally prefer but the worst part is doing things you don't want to do, or things you are morally against, just to "go with the flow" of other people's expectations. Then it becomes stressful instead of enjoyable. Keep the holiday for yourself and for the ones close to you SeptMorn.

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