it is so thoughtful of you to ask these questions, Omar. i don't talk about it, because people think: once disordered always disordered. but yes, i too had my parenting all disrupted at all the wrong times... what i learned was to pretend to be what ever the current set of caregivers wanted, and never to trust anyone not to leave. i would say that consistancy, honesty and reliability are the traits you can keep to the fore, to help him at least find a way to look at you with some kind of respect. i hope for the best for you both~~~ Gus