I grew up having a deep feeling to want to keep my family together, to fight for them and to hold on to my own dream that I can have the stable family. unfortunately I didn't have that stable foundation but at the end of the day I put aside my pride and pull my family together and keep us together.

My boyfriend's views about his own family is very different than mine and its hard to understand and it worries me that if we dont have the same family values then how will that affect us.

We've been talking about our plans for the holidays. I ask him what he would like to do for his family and he said he doesn't want to do anything. No gifts and we dont have to visit them. He told me not to worry about it because it wouldn't matter and for me to not stress so much about it. He felt that last xmas his family didn't put any thought into him so he doesn't want to invest anytime with gifts this year.

I said why won't we visit his grandma for christmas and take her out to eat or something. He said he doesn't want to deal with seeing his Dad so we're not going to visit his grandma. I ask why can't he put aside his anger with his Dad and visit his Grandma, it is the holiday. He told me he doesn't want to talk about it anymore.

No matter how hard things can get with my family, we always find away to come back together but with my bf it seems like he doesn't need that type of connection wit his family right now. Its as thought he's thrown his hands up and doesn't want to deal with his family.

With different views about family will this affect our own future? is this something I should be worried about?