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Old Nov 28, 2010, 05:20 AM
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Originally Posted by Distressed2010 View Post
1. I feel that the rude person is happy he got me coz he can see it.
This would be true if you leave upset and they wanted to make you upset. The key to pulling this off is to not be upset. Is this possible for you?

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Sometimes I'm in a group within my family and my sister is rude to me, no one says anything but If I leave the group when she's rude, I feel that its unfair that because of one person who is behaving "badly", I have to get up and leave where its really my sister that should be corrected or asked to leave.
Could you leave just long enough where you don't have to listen to her and she stops and moves on and then you can come back? The point of doing it this way is that the point isn't to punish anyone, the point is to only protect yourself from her. Again, don't be upset. (Because her rudeness says more about her than anything about you).

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My sisters husband is way ruder than her, and my mom's usually like "fine then don't go out with them." The problem is, they are the ones with the car and if we have people over that are family friends, they end up taking them around, so I have to miss out on hanging out with family friends as well just because of my bro in law and i feel thats so unfair! They are MY family friends in the first place, he knows them through US and because of HIS misbehavior, I have to exit!
In these situations can you just ignore him since you have to weigh which one you are going to put up with?
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