Sannah...They were that I had no idea what they were into with their friends...and that they witnessed my depression....and that I was dysfunctional as a parent.I can say I tremendously did better than my parents...still...I had three childrens lives entrusted into my hands.I will always somehow feel responsible for them...and how their lives play out.Logically I realize there is a particular age where a child is more separate from the parents ability to protect ect....I just know that due to my rearing from mother...I desperately needed to be perfect.I was opposite of her.I was blind to issues because I was on my own from age 13.I didn't experience that stage of life,because I had to pose as an adult at 13...then married at 15.So I was unfamiliar with the teen issues that popped up.I feel I dropped the ball alot.~W~