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Nov 28, 2010, 09:51 AM

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Originally Posted by Myers

Tell lies and half-truths to avoid having to justify actions or ideas Yeah, that, and I do it for ****s and giggles.
Accuse and blame to divert attention away from them selves I can and do given the appropriate circumstances. However, I've found that in certain scenarios, it's actually better to take the blame. The more intelligent and less gullible people are likely to see the deception behind such actions. And "owning up" makes one seem more honorable in the eyes of these more intelligent people. Also, if you play your cards right, you could win over the sympathies of those aforementioned intellects with all your nobility and whatnot.
Refuse to take another's point of view and irrationally defend their point of view Do you mean "attack" their point of view? Yeah, I do that too. I just don't understand people... And a lot of the time, I just like to argue.
With hold information so the abused will look bad later on ("you should have known that"). Not sharing information someone is entitled to I used to do that a lot, but not so much anymore.
Not acknowledging another's feeling All the time. I can't truly understand others feelings, so that makes it hard to appreciate the effects they have on the person in question. I can pretend to, but I don't really mean it.
Slighting or taking digs in a non-aggressive or joking manner. Allows the abuser to say he was just kidding while still being abusive Oh yeah, all the time. However, that doesn't necessarily mean I'm intentionally trying to emotionally abuse someone. For example, if someone were to eavesdrop on me, Wade, and Colin, they'd probably hear nothing but derogatory comments about various celebrities and horrific jokes about babies. It's not that we're trying to abuse one another, we just have a rather frightening imaginations. That also doesn't mean that, when I am trying to abuse someone psychologically, I hide it by jokes and humor.
Changing the subject to divert attention from them selves On occasion.
Making someone feel worthless in an attempt to lower their self-esteem and bring them down to the level of the abuser. It was my understanding that the abuser tried to put the victim at a lower level than themselves, not equal... And I can, especially if I don't like someone.
Threatening or hinting of physical, mental or sexual abuse Not sexual, but I can.
Denying anything is wrong (not being responsible and lying to self) Quite often.
Inappropriate emotional out bursts (a form of distracting attention, confusing the abused or shifting blame) On occasion.
Controlling others to domineer and limit the freedom or expression I'd have to say yes...
Forgetting commitments and promises. I don't forget. I just don't do them and say I forgot, or attest there was some issue of grave importance that needed my full and immediate attention lest the entire universe collapse on itself, so I didn't have time to do what I promised, even though that "issue of grave importance" was hardly important or maybe didn't even exist...
Denying success by placing unreasonable demands, unjustly singling out or constantly placing someone in the category of a loser. I can, but usually don't. That is, I don't place unreasonable demands or blatantly call someone a loser. Even so, I find it quite difficult to acknowledge the success of another. I can, but I don't like it... My demands aren't unreasonable, but they are high. And am more likely to pick out faults than praise what is good. Okay, maybe I do deny success quite a bit...
Taking advantage of ones weakness or using shame, guilt or fear against another Most definitely.
Manipulating another person against their will Isn't that the whole point of manipulation?
Cutting some one off so they are not allowed to speak. Suppressing self-expression. Yes. However, I don't like it when everyone does everything I say, because, quite frankly, that gets really old really fast. I enjoy challenging people who like to debate. Again, I like to argue. But, yes, I do cut them off, more in an effort to win the argument.
Inappropriate questions or comments to evoke an emotional response All the time.
Humiliating someone in front of others or inappropriately pushing their buttons I'm running out of ways to say "yes", but... "yes"...
Pretending to understand your concerns, and then disregarding them Yup.
Slandering some ones name, reputation, associations or activities *Nods*

Thank you so much for your honesty. It has helped me understand many things that have confused me for years.

My father is a true sociopath and has done two things to me:

1. Abused me my whole life.
2. Taught me how to be a sociopath.

Everyday I fight my own sociopathic urges and try to live a more honest and truthful existence.

I want to feel love more than anything.

Those rare times when I can feel love for someone else are probably the most happiest moments I've ever experienced. I do think people can learn to love if they do want to - but they have to want it bad.