a thought, distressed  -my T suggested this one to me...when i exit from an uncomfortable verbal exchange, i tell the person that i need to leave the room, etc because i am not enjoying my time with them. tell them/her you hope next time things will be more pleasant. then leave. use the "I" word rather than pointing it at the other person. you are empowered cause you have expressed that you aren't comfortable under the circumstances. this leaves her with no defense and the finger is not pointed at you. in other words you are not "giving them the baton". it difuses her power.
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