My bf is divorced with 4 young kids. Its been one hell of a custody battle. It worries me how he makes his choices bc I dont agree with them. Sometimes I feel he throws his hands up and would rather walk away but I argue with him and tell him to keep fighting no matter how ugly it can get because they are your kids. I think I convince him to do the things I want him to do because that is something I want in a man. I dont want to face that maybe he would rather let his kids go even though it hurts him but the battle between his ex is breaking him down. Society paints the picture of a father that walks away as a coward and selfish and I dont want to have that in my life. He is a wonderful man but I dont know what he really wants to do when it comes to his family. He almost signed his rights away but I got an attorney for him to make things easier to fight for his kids. His ex lives by the system, she knows the system inside and out and she's a smart lady. She will do anything to get as much money, to avoid working for herself and fiance and live off of my bf. My bf is angry very angry and he would rather not deal with the woman anymore and I think that anger has gotten in the way of his relationship with his kids. He loves his kids but that anger is so so powerful and the resentment breaks him down.

I dont know if I could accept him not having a relatinship with his kids. He has so many visitations with his kids and the only way he was going to see them is if he pays for everything because the ex won't pitch in a dime. By court order every cost should be split in half. Foolishly he signed the contract and now he's obligated to pay for everything and the cost is making him think twice to even see his kids. He pays $1000 a month for child support, medical cost and then for each visit is $60 and he has two visit a week, its $120 a week. The ex is so good at her games and mind control and find every way to make things go her way. I dont know how to help him. I dont know how to cope. I dont know which way to turn. I dont know whats my place in this relationship.