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Originally Posted by Baltazar
All people are different and this includes those with Antisocial Personality Disorder.
Some with APD turn out to be hard core serial killers. Some turn out to be just nasty ppl who live a lonely life. When they die they aren't missed. This disorder is often romanticized as Meyer's puts:the dark handsome leading man who takes what he wants when he wants it.
However, the reality is much different. The literature indicates there is a certain brain function that doesn't work in those that have this disorder. Which in essences means there is a type of "brain damage" indicated.
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Actually, very few psychopaths are serial killers. And most psychopaths are charismatic thrill seekers who do take what they want when they want (or try to); that isn't romanticized. That's not to say all of them are secret agents and look like James Bond, however...
And I prefer to see the difference in brain structure as an evolutionary step as opposed to "damage"...
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I'm not so sure that is the case for all psychopaths. Some find this a game- the better looking the female the better the score.
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Everyone's different, of course. However, that description strikes me more as a typical womanizer than a psychopath...
Omers, that's an interesting story. And I agree that the relationship lasted because you didn't give into his drama and manipulation. I was actually going to add that in a response to one of your posts... In order to avoid being targeted by a psychopath, it's best to convince said psychopath that you're neither a suitable target nor a threat. Of course, they're more likely to ignore you than ask you out if you do this...
If you really wanted to maintain a healthy relationship with a psychopath, it's more up to them than you. That is, if they have enough desire and motivation to suppress their psychopathic tendencies for the sake of the relationship, which is very difficult to maintain over long periods of time, it might work. In which case, it is somewhat possible. And, by "somewhat", I mean it can never be as healthy as a relationship with a non-psychopath, considering the spouses emotional and social needs and the psychopath's inability to truly fulfill those needs. If you choose this, I advise seeing a therapist regularly, learning manipulation and how to counter it, having a strong support system (family, friends, etc.) that you see regularly, and learning how to control your own reactions. Maybe I'm a hypocrite considering my marital status, but I wouldn't advise trying.