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Originally Posted by DoggyBonz
... Even if she did get her license back she has said she would not see me b/c she did not want me to wait for her and wanted me to move on with another therapist. Really??? How do I do that?
Any help/advice would be very appreciated. I hope I have not confused anyone. The bottom line is that I am trying to get over her and feeling like I'll never be able to trust another person again.
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My first therapist left for a new job in June - I'd been a client for about 18 mo. I did start with someone new right away - part of me knew that I was not done with therapy even though I had to be "done" with exT.
So, like everyone has said, even your T - you have to try with a new T. You have to keep taking care of yourself. You can also talk about your grief, that pain.
How do you do that? You just go - one foot in front of the other. You go and you talk, you cry.
Next, I'd have to agree that you will recover better if you can avoid crossing paths with your former T at the gym. Like any intense relationship that has ended abruptly, a bit of distance can allow you to regroup.
Like Rainbow noted, the intensity can mellow. After 5 mo, I still think of exT, but now I've had time to really peel away the layers of that relationship, understand what I really need in my other relationships. I do miss him, "pine" for him a bit.