Ditto to that. PH, your T sounds fine! In some ways, he reminds of my T (who I like a lot). I didn't read people saying your T was being an ogre, inflexible, extreme, or not kind and caring. I think the approach you describe is not uncommon. Some people may have a T that takes a different approach from yours, but that doesn't mean they think your guy is not a good T. There's a lot of variety in Ts out there (which is good for us, because we clients are a diverse bunch too).